All couples who are currently in or have tried a long distance relationship before would probably agree with me that it is has got to be one of the most depressing things that you will ever experience. EVER. Even I, with my laid-back attitude and bordering-on-ridiculous optimistic view in life, have been depressed (and still is) because of LDR. People who have never been in one will never get it, and those who do get it, well, I can only say one thing: we are masochists! We like to inflict pain on ourselves by being apart with the one we love!
Anyway, there is hope. Question: What do you do when you feel sad, or angry or bored? Answer: Distract yourself. In the LDR context, this does not mean to look for another man or woman and cheat on your partner. That is just pathetic. Distracting yourself means focusing all your energy on something that will most likely occupy your time. This, in turn, will divert your mind from mooning over your love who is miles away from your side. Put simply, get a hobby. Invest in something that you are passionate in doing, like photography, writing, reading, blogging...anything! The whole point is this: do something that is worth of your time that will temporarily not make you depressed and not make you miss (your bf/gf) so much.
I, for one, read books when I feel depressed. My boyfriend, on the other hand, go out for drinks with his friends or plant in his garden. I know, right? We are reduced to immersing ourselves in hobbies - and its not a totally bad thing. It may be a lame thing, yes, but if you have lots of time and your other half is on the other side of the planet, well, you can do a lot of lame things and still feel OK about it. In fact, it can even be therapeutic. And usually, hobbies define individuality. Its all about perspective. And a whole lot of books, beer, or plants.
Hang in there!
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